How to Ruin a Good Relationship?

A relationship built assiduously with care and caution over a large period of time with friends, relatives and companions. All can be ruined forever within moments; when self control is lost; rude and impolite behavior overrides you; anger and jealousy overpowers you and your tongue lashes out acerbic words; profanity and uncalled for unpleasant comments; coupled with jeers, criticism and taunts. When you throw all cautions and ego assumes importance. When humility is overcome by pride and self esteem and when false prestige overrides you. While trying to cut some ones tail, you may cause your utter ruination. After the events passes and when realization dawns on you, it is too late to mend the matters. You have to work very hard to undo the wrong done by you with genuine apologies, calm and balm the ruffled feelings, with goodness to the wronged person and by good deeds, actions, genuine love and affection and repentance. But in the most of the circumstances what is lost is lost forever and the wronged person cannot assume the fine sentiments and positivism held so far for you. He grows suspicious and his wounds keep reminding him of the hurt caused by you and they also would be looking for a chance and an opportunity to pay you back in the same coin with more rigor and cause your ruination with multiple injuries. There is a good adage that to maintain a calm posture and to hold your tongue and remain silent is golden than utter and bursting out your momentary hurt feelings and emotions. Hence patience is considered as a mother of virtue. If you bear with an awkward situation in a tight place, when emotions are ranging and ruling and reasons have failed; you would come out victorious. You are supposed to have controlled the situation superbly and would be considered as a gentleman, a person of chivalry and fine manners. You need to develop magnanimity with calm exterior and soft interior with a genuine golden heart; showing compassion, kindness and tolerance. You need to avoid ruffling feathers and stirring a muddy pond to avoid ruining healthy, good and sustained relationship. Therefore silence and sobriety are hallmarks to maintain good relationships.