Happiness is a state of mind being satisfied with the happenings around you and joys brought by the environment, people you live with and the work you perform. There is no mental or emotional disturbance, no pain, anguish or turmoil in the mind. A mental state of satisfaction resulting in calmness and serenity. There is no extra burden on the mind or on the purse or drain in the finances. Your daily cores are attended fully. People with whom you are concerned are not troubling you. You are in a position to maintain cordiality and avoid any sharp edges and pin pricks. You are not unduly criticized, condemned, pulled up or troubled for any slip or mistake or wrong committed by you, you are maintaining the decorum and rules of decent living; etiquette’s and manners. You are not overstepping the limits, being always cordial and smiling, doing your best to help your surroundings, friends, relatives and people around you. You are doing your best as you are required to do or perform to satisfy the needs of your dependents especially your wife and children. You are maintaining your health and getting sound sleep. Thus life for you is charming, full of roses and perfumes.
One needs to look into one self to achieve happiness, solace and peace.
As against this, there are people who are always complaining of one thing or the other. Being dissatisfied with their own self, picking up quarrels with people around them, fighting for one thing or the other – thereby neglecting their daily chores and works and being irresponsible. Due to which they land themselves in umpteen problems of one kind or the other resulting in emotional disturbances, outburst of anger, being jealous, carrying ill feelings for others. Always carrying a feeling of being wronged by others. Always carrying a feeling of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, sorrows and pain.
One can turn a leaf and change their course of life by accepting the reality of their faults. One needs to put an end to the feeling of being wronged by others. A mood of well being is required to be prepared to meet the situations of life. Put up a smile on seeing an adversary than showing disrespect and anger. One needs to change the tone of talk to sweetness, softness and kindness than being rough, haughty and proud. One needs to tackle the emotional disturbances like anger, ill feelings, jealousy by rationalization or by taking advice from elders, wise people. Blame game needs to be stopped and put an end to. One needs to help oneself than expect others to help them, that is you need to become self reliant and self satisfied, Happiness is not some thing which comes from above. One needs to create an environment, situation and prepare an atmosphere for conducive things to happen, to bring joys. You need to give up being a cynical, critical person. You should not cause hurt, annoyance, harm and give pin pricks to others. This would prevent others from harming and troubling you. One needs to meet the challenges of life stoically, methodically, scientifically, systematically with inner strength, grit and determination. One needs to be patient in life. One needs to give up wickedness and cruelty of mind and adopt mercy and compassion to achieve success in life.