There are as many recommendations as there are ways of life and living to tackle anger, stress and strain in daily living. The holistic approach is to train the inner self to always remain calm and not to develop attachments to worldly things.
The management “gurus’ have their list of ‘do’s’ and ‘dont’s’ and have suggested remedies from deep breathing exercises to management of daily stress and strain in daily living. The psychologists have their way of dealing with this problem. They link this daily problem to personality disorder or inability to develop proper defense mechanism.
“Bursting anger, stress and strain,” in daily living is not as easy as the suggested remedies. Majority deal with this problem in their own individualistic way. Anger is an angst and reaction against something unpleasant to the self of man. Anger gets built up slowly and steadily or it is an immediate outburst of emotions. The outburst would be in the form of strong reaction against the person towards whom the anger is directed either by shouting or by use of abusive language or violence or by a simple stare. In most of the cases where there is no outburst of emotion, the anger builds up inside causing severe stress and strain. It may lead to emotional disorder or blood pressure or even diabetes and other related diseases. Most of the migraines, heart ailments are a result of continuous building up of anger, stress and strain.
As children, the temper tantrums and outbursts are short-lived and children tend to forget and forgive. They continue to play, sing, shout and make merry. This process of joy and happiness found in childhood slowly gets lost as the growing process takes place. The holistic approach is to recall the same child-like humour and attitude in adult and growing years to let out the built up emotions. To play games, take interest in music, extra-curricular activities, make pilgrimages, visit tourist jaunts, go for holidays and such things. But all cannot afford it. The life situation may not warrant such a luxury. The problems besetting a person may be such that it may not call for ‘quick fix’ solutions. It may be a long standing family feud, grave legal entanglements, indebtedness, loss in business and many such problems. Each individual may require different solutions to get rid of stress and strain and anger, built up due to several wrongs done to an individual over a period of time.
Prayers, meditation, patience, tolerance and not to lose hope and be always optimistic of good events to happen is another positive approach to remove stress, strain and anger and ill-feelings developing in one’s self.
The spiritualists would like to leave the matter to destiny and take each moment as a moment of joy and bliss. This is a very difficult approach and one needs constant strengthening of spiritual beliefs. This is by aligning oneself to some spiritual systems or ‘gurus’ who guide a person to deal with life situations.
There are yoga specialists, ‘peers,’ bishops, saints and umpteen spiritualists who show the way to tackle problems of life.
Whatever may be the methods and ways chosen by one to tackle the problems of life, one thing is quite clear that stress, strain, anger and ill-feelings should not be left unaddressed. It requires to be handled by an individual person by healthy means and wean it out to make life joyful, happy and blissful.